A thought about group dynamics

The problem with group dynamics is that they can either be inclusive or divisive.

I'm sure everyone will have experienced the joy and satisfaction of being part of a group, or the dread and disgust of not being able to really be part of a group.

Blame it on our human nature. As much as we like to compartmentalize our time and finances, we also like to compartmentalize our friends, acquaintances, and groups, as well as how much time we like to devote to them accordingly. Call it the curse of our human rationality.

As much as we claim to treat people equally, that will never happen. We are sometimes nicer and more attentive to some people than others.

Managing people is an art. Managing group dynamics is an exercise of patience, humility, mutual understanding and enlightenment all in one. But unfortunately, leaders who truly appreciate and understand this constraint are rare.

On a personal note, I seldom see the point to really try to fit into any groups where I feel I won't be accepted completely as a part of. Call it cynicism or a result of some innate defence mechanism but when people have the choice to be part of a group, they should also have a choice not to part of it.

Time is so short and our efforts so limited. Like the saying "choose your battle wisely" goes, I think we can choose the groups of people that we really want to fit into. It's much less time and headache.